These six words could change how you think about food

"Are you still working on that?"

Words have power – especially when they’re used so frequently we don’t even seem to notice them.

Lately I’ve noticed one question that’s asked by nearly all waiters. It’s just six words, but they speak volumes about how we, as a society, think about food. It’s a phrase so common you probably haven’t even given it a moment’s thought. But it’s also so common that it’s probably also affected your perception of food, whether or not you realize it.

Ready? Here it is:

“Are you still working on that?”

Now that you’re aware of this phrase, I bet you’ll be amazed at how often you’ll hear it. Seriously, I hear it every time I’m at a restaurant. And here’s the reason it drives me crazy: It should not be work to eat your food!

Of course in America, “work” has a tremendously negative connotation. Eating should not be laborious. Food should be savored, enjoyed, relished, honored. Eating should be a wonderful, joyous experience!

So the next time a waiter says those six little words to you, here are six you can say back to them. If you’re not finished eating yet, try this: “I’m still enjoying my meal, thanks” (with the emphasis on “enjoying” of course). Or, if you are done, you can cheerfully proclaim, with a big smile: “It wasn’t any work at all!”

Maybe, just maybe, if enough of us bring this to people’s attention, we can get rid of this awful phrase, and make a small dent in how we as a society view our food.  So please share this post, mention it to your friends, and help spread this paradigm shift. Because words matter.

Photo: “Afterwords” © 2012 by Waleed Alzuhair, used under Creative Commons License.

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Britany
Guest

Totally agree! I really like the response “It wasn’t any work at all!”
I’ve worked in a few more upscale restaurants, and we were trained to ask if the guest was “still enjoying”…”still working” was a big no-no.

Yvonne
Guest

My daughter recommended your website for the unprocessed Oct challenge. Now I’m doing some exploring. That phrase had not set right with me when I first heard it. No, I have never “worked” at eating my food, but I have enjoyed eating it. It just sounds so crass, unrefined? (Not that I would ever say something rude like that to a server, who is doing a difficult job!) Maybe those aren’t the best words to describe the phrase, and just leave it at what you said. I’m enjoying this dinner now, or I have enjoyed it, thank you.

Chuck
Guest

I always think of dining out as a little vacation. And I don’t go on working vacations.

Christina
Guest

Irks the hell out of me every time!

Colleen E Bohrer
Guest

Yes, I have heard this phrase aimed at me many times. Why? Because I ENJOY my food and take my time enjoying my meal. This phrase usually means to me, “Are you ready to move on yet so I can get another customer?” I politely let them know not to plan on cashing me out anytime soon because I am having too much fun enjoying my meal to even THINK about desert yet !!!! lol

Liz Schmitt
Contributor

Brilliant, Andrew – incredibly annoying, just like the waitstaff who want to whisk away my plate the minute it appears I have finished my meal – despite the fact that my dinner partner is still eating. In Italy, we would have barely ordered our meal! Hate the rush-rush of American dining.

Marge Evans
Guest

I always want to say “do I look like a 5 lb. dog, working on a 10 lb. bone?” Much nicer to say, “may I clear your plate?”

alina
Guest

You know how restaurants often serve large, rich meals, so by the time you’re nearing the end you’re already painfully full but you keep shoveling it back because it’s good, or you don’t want to waste it, (or because you’re just a piggy)? I think that’s how this applies.

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